Sex: How to correctly understand orgasm and masturbation?
Teacher Mary Jane’s husband is well-known Shaun Pullock. She is
also a PhD in sociology from the University of Pittsburgh and a postdoctoral
fellow in sociology from Peking University. The past few decades have focused
on research and investigations on sex, gender, marriage and family. Many of her
inferences have been confirmed in the past 30 years. She also often interacts
with netizens on the topic of sex and marriage on vvfit.com video conference. She is so much into male things that if she would like to eat a cake she would eat a penis cake only. The view is very
positive.
Today I’m sharing a sex article, on how to correctly
understand orgasm and is masturbation really harmful?
1. How to correctly understand orgasm?
Orgasm is a problem that sexology is very concerned about.
After researching sexology, it is found that human orgasm has a
"four-stage" process:
The first stage is the excitement period, for example, men
begin to get erections, then women's breasts begin to enlarge, and then there
are various other body changes.
Then enter the second one, called the plateau period, and it
maintains this state of excitement.
The third stage is called the orgasm. This time is the male
ejaculation and the rhythmic contraction of the female vagina.
Then enter the fourth period, called the fading period. This
thing was confirmed by the cameras and various measurements in the laboratory.
Regarding orgasm, there is still a period of history. Men
have nothing to say. Everyone agrees that ejaculation is an orgasm. But with
regard to female orgasm, Freud once proposed in his time that there are two
types of female orgasm: "clitoris orgasm" and "vaginal
orgasm." Then clitoral orgasm is a manifestation of immaturity, and
vaginal orgasm is mature. which performed.
What did he say from this? Clitoris orgasm is often achieved by stimulating clitoral masturbation, and this vaginal orgasm is the orgasm that a man brings to her during sexual intercourse. He feels that masturbation orgasm.
The female role is wrong. She is an active person. He believes that a female should be a passive role in the process of sexual activity, and her orgasm should also be passive, brought to her by men.
In her masturbation, the
orgasm obtained by touching the clitoris is an active behavior. Therefore, she
is not a mature woman, but is not in line with the identity of a woman. It is a
manifestation of women's immaturity.
This theory has reached the very famous sexologists and sex therapists in the United States, one is called Masters (William Howell Masters) and the other is called Johnson (Virginia Eshelman Johnson).
What did Masters
and Johnson do? What happened? They did laboratory research on sexual behavior
and orgasm, using many of the latest methods.
If you have seen an American drama called "Sex Masters", this American drama really describes the entire research career of Masters and Johnson and the relationship between them.
When the two of them studied, they used a lot of terrible methods, such as putting electrodes on the body, just like we do an electrocardiogram, all kinds of heartbeat and pulse measurement.
At the same time, the most important thing is that they invented a
glass tube to put in the vagina, the glass tube is hollow, and then put a small
camera inside to capture the entire process of female orgasm.
An important result of their research is to overturn the distinction between Freud's clitoral orgasm and vaginal orgasm. Because he discovered that in this process, the so-called distinction does not exist.
Women’s orgasms are all the same as the four-stage process mentioned above.
Whether it is obtained through masturbation or through sexual intercourse, it
is the same process. This negates Freud's theory.
Sensitive spot 5 cm from the front wall of the female vagina can make female cumshot
Later, after Masters and Johnson, there was a sexologist named Glassen Berger. He also discovered a sensitive spot 5 cm from the front wall of the female vagina. This sensitive spot can easily cause sexual excitement. She would cumshot when she came orgasm.
Later, there were some
words imported from Japan called "Squirt", which is what it refers
to.
What is G-Spot in a female?
The kind of cumshot she had during orgasm was tested to be something close to the composition of male semen. This thing seemed to distinguish between clitoral orgasm and G-spot orgasm.
Why is G-spot called so?
Later, people used the
first word of Glasson Berg's name, G, to name this newly discovered sexually
sensitive spot, and called it G spot.
In fact, the orgasm triggered by the G-spot and the stimulation of the clitoris is the same process. It is not two processes. It does not mean that one can distinguish which one is immature or which one is mature.
In the end, through such a debate, everyone realized that women and men
actually went through this four-stage process, such a scientific conclusion.
Regarding the difference between male orgasm and female orgasm, we can say that, except for a very small number of people with organic diseases, men will experience orgasm nearly 100% in their lifetime, but women, through social surveys, have found that there is a proportion.
A small
percentage of people have never experienced orgasm in their lives. Then we look
at this ratio in various countries, there may be 6%, 7%, 8%, and no more than
10%.
The only exception we saw was a national sample survey conducted in China in 2014, in which 28% of women in the 60-64 age group had never had an orgasm in their lives. This data is too high. People of this age are all born in their 40s or 50s.
The environment during their adolescence and
their entire life is very abnormal. They are very anti-abstinence and have no
sex education. No one tells her about it. The matter of orgasm is completely in
the dark, since it can reach such a high proportion.
This also explains a difference between male and female
orgasms, that is, men will get orgasms naturally, while women have a process of
learning and exploring. This should be said to be a difference between male and
female orgasms.
2. Is masturbation really harmful?
Man’s attitude towards masturbation has a long history. There
are very fierce struggles. In this struggle, the attitudes of affirming it and
denying it are sometimes very fierce, so I want to give you a review first. The
long dispute over the issue.
We first discovered that there were documents that some doctors in Europe in the 18th century put forward the "harmful masturbation theory". What they put forward was that they linked many diseases with masturbation.
At that time, there was nothing special about this
medicine. Developed. For many physical phenomena, what are the reasons?
Medicine has not really developed, so misunderstandings and associations will
appear.
At that time, this group of doctors wrote a lot of pamphlets and books, proposing such a theory that masturbation can lead to a lot of unthinkable diseases.
What is more intuitive can cause poor sleep and lethargy,
and then it is more evil: tuberculosis, Causes nerve splits, epilepsy, and a
variety of very strange diseases. There are dozens of diseases that can be
caused by masturbation. This was the opinion of people in the 18th century.
There is a particularly interesting thing. You may know that
Michel Foucault, the most famous 20th-century university in France, once said
that the Chinese people’s view of masturbation stayed in France in the 18th
century, because there are many in China. People also think that masturbation
is harmful.
After thinking that masturbation is harmful, then there are various
treatments, saying that some boys and girls are a little addicted to
masturbation or something, and then these parents think that he has a terrible
disease, because masturbation is so harmful and it can cause so many diseases ,
You have to find a way to treat.
Among them, we can see that there is a record in the historical records that there is an operation to treat a girl's masturbation. At that time, many people performed this operation.
They used a soldering iron
on her labia majora, double-click on the left, then double-click on the right,
and then Tap on the clitoris and then burn the clitoris to treat masturbation
in this way. This way, the clitoris is definitely gone, and the girl won't
masturbate, so she is done. This kind of practice sounds terrifying now.
Until now, in some countries in Africa, there is still that kind of genital circumcision for girls. Some people call it genital circumcision, which also removes all of the labia majora, labia minora, and clitoris.
This kind of surgery is performed on girls. They will do it when they
are 7 or 8 years old, and it is quite common. It is said that 85% of girls in
Sudan do it.
This is a very, very serious topic. Is masturbation harmful?
However, in modern sex studies, it is considered that masturbation
is completely harmless. Through scientific research, it has been found that the
process of orgasm caused by masturbation is exactly the same as that of sexual
intercourse, and it is exactly the same process from an anatomical point of
view.
So if you say that masturbation is harmful, then sexual intercourse is harmful. Then people can only draw such a conclusion. Because of these two things, the process of its occurrence in the body is exactly the same as the entire physiological changes. How can masturbation be harmful?
If you
say that masturbation is harmful, then sexual intercourse is harmful. If you
say that sexual intercourse is harmful, how can humans reproduce?
In the whole process, there is still struggle. Although modern science has discovered that this is the case, people’s habitual thinking from that time has some other things.
For example, in the Bible, masturbation is also called "the sin of Onan." He wrote that an ejaculation shot outside but not inside the vagina. This is called "Onan's Sin." Therefore, religions are also opposed, like missionaries.
From the perspective of abstinence, they also prohibit people from doing this kind of masturbation. This kind of behavior, this thing makes the trend of demonizing masturbation very, very strong.
For example, there are a lot of "rebooting" in Asia now, and they are spreading the theory that masturbation is harmful, and
they don't have much evidence, but they say that masturbation is harmful. It
has a long history to say that masturbation is harmful, and now in many
countries, such as in Africa, there is female genital circumcision. It is still
a common practice, so this trend of thought is still very strong.
I remember that there is also a website in China. They did
some amazing things. For example, at a sex culture festival in Guangzhou one
year, when we had a sexology teacher giving a report, they would go up to
splash dung, and then everyone I know they are called "Auntie Splashing
Dung."
Once I happened to see that they had a comment on me because
they also spilled dung on me. They enlarged my photo and then spilled dung or
something. I see what they said, they said Li Yinhe actually thought
Masturbation is harmless. It is one of my charges to promote the harmlessness
of masturbation.
So you can see from here that among the people and in society, whether masturbation is harmful or harmless is always a big debate. But what I can tell you is that the latest scientific research in sexology is based on the harmless theory of masturbation.
Because the main basis is also
researched in the laboratory, it is found that the process of masturbating to
orgasm is exactly the same in the body as the process of sexual intercourse, so
it is harmless and can be said to be completely harmless.
So now sexology generally holds this view, but it will take
some time for everyone to accept this view, because masturbation has a long
history and its practice is very cruel. Continue to the present.
In addition to studying people’s various sexual behaviors,
sexology also studies the probability of a certain behavior. On the issue of
masturbation, the world's statistics are that the rate of masturbation among
men is close to 100% and that of women is 70% %.
There is a question of whether masturbation has a degree.
This is very important. Everything is adequate. Therefore, we in China are
talking about the golden mean. The oldest wisdom in China is the golden mean.
If it is too late, there is still a degree.
Although masturbation is harmless, just like sexual intercourse is harmless, it’s not good if you overdo it. This thing is just like eating. You have to eat until you are full, or someone is eating 80% or 70% full.
Sixty percent full is for good health, not too fat or something. Then
if you are ten percent full, or even after eating, this thing will be harmful,
it will not be good for your body, it will be harmful.
Moderate masturbation is harmless, but excessive masturbation is harmful. This harmfulness and the harmlessness of masturbation we just mentioned are two aspects, which are two concepts.
You can understand that masturbation
is harmful or harmless like asking whether sexual intercourse is harmful or
harmless. Then we answer it is definitely harmless, and even if it can help you
understand that eating is harmful and harmless, then we must say that it is
harmless.
But the second problem is that if it is overdone or something
is overdone, this harmless thing may cause some physical harm and become
harmful. This is another level of harmfulness.
So where is this degree? This is another problem. Once I was discussing this issue with a group of sexologists. We have one of the oldest and oldest sexologists in China called Ruan Fangfu. He published a "Sex Knowledge Handbook" in the early stage of reform and opening up. This "Sex Knowledge Handbook" was sold.
There are thousands, hundreds of
thousands, millions of books, because this is the only book about sex knowledge
at that time, he is also an old sexologist, more than 80. Once I asked him in
person, I said about sex, this degree, how good is this thing, or how good is
it?
He immediately agreed. Of course, the more the better, the more the better. This is a basic view of sexology. But what exactly is excess? Now some people are talking about sex addiction, how can it be called addiction, excessive, where is this degree?
It is a yardstick and a sign that whether the degree is right
or not can climax.
If you can still have an orgasm, then don't overdo it. If you
can't have an orgasm anymore and you still insist on it, it's over. So we can
grasp this degree like this, that is, eating is a good thing, but don't eat and
support. Where is this degree? That is when you are full.
Sex is of course a good thing. To say that this thing is
harmful in itself can cause various diseases, epilepsy, and tuberculosis. It is
a particularly ignorant view. This sex, masturbation, this thing is a good
thing in itself, but it also has a degree. So where is it? It just can't
orgasm. After you can't orgasm, if you have to force it, then it may be
harmful.
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Dr. Shawna Reason |
Education: MBBS, MD
Occupation: Medical Doctor / Virologist
Specialization: Medical Science, Micro Biology / Virology, Natural Treatment
Experience: 15 Years as a Medical Practitioner
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